My sister is in a violent situation . I feel like she is being intimidated by her boyfriend and brainwashed . I have heard stories of her abuse things that she has told me. Even at one point her boyfriend pulled a knife out on me because I was trying to defend my sister .
My sister doesn’t have her own place she lives with my mom’s boyfriend house. She stays in cube sized room and they all share one bed . Her boyfriend and her sometimes get into it when they are drinking and it gets really bad. I ask my sister what happen but she really don’t tell me too much cause she wants everyone to believe their relationship is cool .
Now I really don’t care about my sister cause I feel she’s doing very little on trying to get outta of this unhealthy situation . But I am most concerned for my niece.
My mom does nothing about it when it’s going on right in her home (my mom also has a drinking problem too ). My sister has pick up the phone once to call the police and my mom snatched the phone away from her because she didn’t want the neighbors to know and the embarrassment .
My mother is also getting abused which I’m not at all surprise by her 24 year old boyfriend who is also my brother’s friend that’s how my mom was introduced to him . Both my brothers and sis and mom + my niece and my sister’s boyfriend all live there. There house is falling apart there’s trash everywhere ,dishes unwashed it’s cluttered with all these electronic stuff and furniture. Cigarettes butts everywhere in cups on counter tops cause they all smoke and they smoke marijuana.
They pay for nothing only my brothers pay whatever they can afford .
I understand they would have no place to go if my mother were to up and leave her boyfriend or if her boyfriend were to leave her . My sister is 23 her boyfriend is 30 and their kid is 2 and my brothers are 19 and 22 .
My sister feels like she’s stuck . I have offered her help all the time . I’ve said that she can stay with me and I can help her get her own apartment . But she doesn’t want to if her boyfriend can”t come with her. I already tried that with them I’ve let them stay at my apartment before and I only charged them 40 dollars a week and they couldn’t even do that. They felt that they didn’t have to pay me. The bills went up cause I had extra people living with me.
Well my intentions right now is to save my niece . I want to report this but feel like I’ll be the one starting a lot of problems if I do. And I feel like in a way it’s not worth it cause my life is going good . Like if I report this to CS . My family will know I’m the one who called cause I’m the only one who knows all this. And they would make trouble for me.
I honestly don’t know what to do . They constantly bring their issues and problems to me into my home . They even use me at times they come over to washed their clothes to eat cause they don’t have working stove . They do have a washer but no dryer they take showers when their hot water is off at one point they even sat in my house to watch T.V. when their electricity was turned off cause nobody paid bills. 6 people in that house and no one can afford rent and pay bills and they all have jobs except for my mom and sis . My mom just got cut off from unemployment and my sis receives welfare .
I know my life isn’t perfect neither but I do know when things are not right and do my best to fix it . But they are allowing all this to happen . What should I do ? I guess I only deal with them cause their family but they are causing a bad influence in my kids life . My children are old enough they know what happen . They see my mom gettin drunk and cursing and yellin for my sis to move out . Please if anyone can give me some understanding to all of this or help me make clear decision . Should I just back off and not accept phone calls from them . But I don’t want nothing to happen to my mom or sister if I chose to ignore them . Even though they are not right by me and my family .
I have spoken to them about it and they all look at me like I’m crazy and don’t know what I’m talking about and reassures me that things are fine .
That’’s the whole point neither one of them wants a kid they only deal with her cause she’s here . My sister wants me to take her daughter over night but I also have two kids of my own 9 and 7 and I need that break also but I have no one to rely on as you already know my family are not stable . Anyways I’ve been through a hell of a lot and made sacrifices to get to where I am today.
To jaded I do have a better perspective of this that’s why i posted this . This is the way I see things when it comes to my family . And this is not bizzarre or bizzarro or whatever the way you called . This happen more commonly then you know all around the world . It’s just not put into such graphic details as the way I put it. So my concerned are not for them if you understood my post it’s about my niece she is innocent in all of this . Doctors were not hesitant on calling DSS on me cause I missed one appointment for my kid an appoint that I made . So I think your missing the whole point in all of this and that there’s an innocent child in all of this .
Personally I’d get on a train and I’d go live at least 5000 miles away without telling anyone of this lot where I am.